The Practice of Self-Acceptance and Self-Love

Anytime we define ourselves by what we do or what we achieve, we put ourselves in a really tenuous position. How do we practice true self-love and self-acceptance?

People often get their sense of identity from what they do. That is fine when you are achieving and hitting your goals but what happens when you don’t?

People then feel cheated; I’ve given so much of myself, I’ve sacrificed all this stuff and my bargain with the universe was when I got there then I would feel happy, and more often than not, now there here, they’re not happy!

That is a scenario that is repeated on loop in the world of special needs because there is so little that is actually within your sphere of control, except your attitude and response to the situation unfolding in front of you.

When I was caring for Jack, I was his Mum, Advocate, Carer and many other titles, but I was still Charmaine. I had many abilities, but I didn’t define myself by what I did. I defined myself by what I loved. I loved my son and I loved taking care of him.

Try to express your passion for things you love, be demonstrative and generous in praise of those you love and admire. I did and I reaped the rewards.

Many mums feel guilty taking time out for themselves, because this time away from the burden of responsibility may be perceived by others as not being productive or achieving anything.

I really want people to understand that you are worthy of doing something that is nice for yourself just because it’s nice, not because it is attached to achieving anything or because you will then be able to compare yourself to others.

At the heart of the practice of self-acceptance and self-love, is the belief that says “you’re valuable, just because you exist” and that daily practice comes about by honouring your truth about what you need and integrating small, self-fulfilling care goals into your busy life.

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